Welcome to my blog, a space dedicated to understanding, recognizing, and overcoming abuse. Here, I share insights on identifying different forms of abuse, practical steps to protect yourself or loved ones, and resources to help on the path to healing. Through my own experiences and research, I hope these posts provide knowledge, strength, and hope for anyone seeking clarity or support.


Stop to Grieve

By Phyllis Pyles

There are five stages to the grieving process: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Rarely, do you ever go through them as they are listed above and some people will... Read more »

The Power of Storytelling

By Phyllis Pyles

Stories have the ability to change lives. From the earliest days of humanity, people gathered around fires to share experiences, pass down wisdom, and connect with each other. Sounds a... Read more »

The Unforgivable Truth about Jeffrey Epstein

By Phyllis Pyles

When I speak of evil in the world, this is what I mean. Jeffrey Epstein wasn’t just a wealthy financier. He was a predator who used his power to exploit... Read more »

Wolves in Sheep Clothing

By Phyllis Pyles

The issue of child sexual abuse by Roman Catholic priests has been a significant and troubling issue within the Catholic Church. While some priests have faced criminal charges and jail... Read more »

Why We Don’t Tell

By Phyllis Pyles

Most sexually abused children will not tell their parent/s or guardian they are being abused. There’s a simple reason they don’t tell. The predator threatens the child usually with the... Read more »

Damages of Neglect, Part I

By Phyllis Pyles

Child Abuse and Neglect – perhaps it goes without saying if you are being abused, your basic needs are likely being neglected. But little is said about the neglect part... Read more »

Feelings From Being Abuse

By Phyllis Pyles

Feeling: Guilt The Lie: You bear responsibility for the events that unfolded in your childhood home. You may believe it was somehow your fault, you could have prevented it, or... Read more »

Why We Are Addicts

By Phyllis Pyles

Child abuse and neglect can have profound and lasting effects on individuals, often leading to a range of emotional, psychological, and behavioral challenges, including the development of addictions. Addictions among... Read more »

Neglect and Verbal Abuse

By Phyllis Pyles

Abuse can affect a person for their entire lifetime. Faulkner wrote, “The past is never dead. It’s not even past.” How true it is for so many cases of abuse.... Read more »

Healing From Abuse

By Phyllis Pyles

The time has come for you to begin your recovery and healing process. I won’t promise it will be easy, but living the way you are now isn’t easy either.... Read more »

Accepting It Really Happened

By Phyllis Pyles

For many survivors of childhood sexual abuse, it is extremely difficult to accept “yes, my abuse really did happen.” We spend our lives shoving it down deep inside of us,... Read more »

The Child Is Never to Blame

By Phyllis Pyles

Most child abuse victims believe it was their fault the abuse happened to them — if only they’d be stronger, if they would have behaved or not lied, if they... Read more »

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