SHAME-ON-YOU!
AI has a good definition for shame I’d like to use.”Shame” refers to a powerful and painful emotion stemming from the belief that you are fundamentally flawed, unworthy, or disgracefully different from others, often accompanied by a strong desire to hide or withdraw. It differs from guilt, which focuses on a specific wrong action, as shame centers on the negative perception of one’s entire self. Shame can arise from failing to meet social, moral, or personal standards and can lead to psychological symptoms like depression and anxiety.
My abuser would tell me how awful I was, and he had to punish me—what kind of dad would he be if he didn’t punish me. Then proceed to tell me he was giving me a break and it would be “our secret.” He wouldn’t tell my mother, aunts, or teachers about it.
Experiencing trauma, particularly in childhood, is a common cause of shame that can persist for years.
Shame and humiliation did so much damage to me. It is a primary way for the abuser to control you, and rest assured you’re NOT going to tell anyone about the abuse.
I’d like to remind you again we never hear the damage that was done to the child by pedophiles. We’re too concerned about the pedophiles rights and perhaps stepping on toes to call pedophiles blatant, evil and not capable of rehabilitation. However, we must try to save this worthless piece of crap that destroys our babies. May they all burn in hell’s eternal fires!
